Blast-Through A Woman's SECRET Weapon
Today I'm going to talk about an excruciatingly frustrating challenge that ALL MEN experience...
It's a woman's SECRET WEAPON.
Are you ready?
It's called - the PHONE.
Imagine:
You see a cute woman at Starbucks...you get yourself to start a conversation with her... she responds positively to your approach... you
ask for her number... and she gives it to you.
Nice.
But the next day, you're at home... and you're staring at that little white piece of paper with the name and number of that cute woman
from Starbucks.
That's when you start to SWEAT...
"WHEN should I call?"
"If I call too early, she'll think I'm needy..."
"I don't want to BLOW IT with this one..."
So you wait... and spend hours and hours thinking about her day and night...
But the next day you get that all-to-familiar feeling in the pit of your stomach.... and a troubling thought enters your head:
"Maybe I'm waiting TOO long. What if she forgets who I am - or worse - meets someone else in the mean time???""
"Screw it. I gotta call... RIGHT NOW."
So you walk over to your phone.
You pick it up - and you notice your palms are sweaty against the cold plastic.
You hear the dial tone.
You again stare at the piece of paper with her number...
You press the buttons on the keypad...
Ring- Ring-
All of a sudden your heart starts pounding in your chest... and a powerful wave of fear washes over you - so you HANG UP.
"Damn it, maybe I should practice what I'll say first."
So you put the phone down... walk over to your bathroom.... and you look at yourself in the mirror.
You awkwardly try to put a look of confidence & coolness on your face as you practice what you will say...
"Hey Sara, it's Bob... what's up? Yeah, listen, we should get together..."
You think, "No, no, no... that'll never do.... I need to LOWER my voice..."
You try again, still talking to yourself in the mirror:
[LOWER VOICE] "HEY SARA, it's BOB... What's up?"
And you think, "Yeah, that's better. Okay, that was pretty easy. I can do this."
You're ready to do the deed...
So you go back to the phone...
You pick it up...
You punch in the number...
RING...
RING....
RING...
RING...
But...
You get her VOICEMAIL!
[VOICEMAIL]: "Hi, this is Sara..."
You think, "CRAP!"
[VOICEMAIL]: "...I'm not here right now..."
You think: "Do I leave a message?"
[VOICEMAIL]: "...leave a message and I'll call you
back..."
You wonder: "Or should I just hang up?"
[VOICEMAIL]: "BEEEEEP..."
"Uh... hey... Sara... it's me, BOB. Um, listen,
maybe I'll try you back later."
CLICK.
"CRAP!"
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So let's summarize this sad, sad story:
The courage to start that conversation back at
Starbucks, the "game" you demonstrated to actually get her to
give you her number, the anticipation of seeing her again,
the practice in the mirror before the call...
ALL of it...
... COMPLETELY WASTED!
Damn it... I hate it when that happens...
But there IS hope.
===== "HOW WOMEN MASTER THE PHONE" =====
How come women are so damn LETHAL on the phone?
I'll share with you 2 of my own personal theories:
First, women log more "phone time" by the time they're 9 years old... than you and I will accumulate in our ENTIRE LIVES.
Women live, eat, sleep - all on the phone.
Women talk on the phone while they do laundry, while they do they dishes... hell, they'll even talk on the phone while they're on the CAN.
How come?
Because women, by their nature, love to CONNECT through talking.
This is why they love to chat - even if it's about NOTHING.
And that's why the phone is like CRACK to women.
They just can't get enough.
You've heard of Blue Tooth, right? It's the technology behind those wireless ear pieces for cell phones you see people using EVERYWHERE
these days...
Have you ever walked by a guy, and he's mumbling to himself.... you think he's just come out of the "nut house"... and then you realize he's just on a cell-phone call?
Well, you know who INVENTED Blue Tooth?
It was a woman.
Why?
So she could talk on the phone and still have TWO HANDS free for her VIBRATOR...
Talk about "multi-tasking"...
But seriously, with how much time women spend on the phone, it's no surprise they are masters of how to use it - and how to manipulate men WITH it.
The second reason women are "LETHAL" on the phone is because....
WOMEN ARE "CATTY" AS HELL!
Don't get me wrong, I absolutely LOVE women...
But it's also true that women are the most back-stabbing, crabby, moody, political, "clicky" GENDER on the face of the planet.
OK, so there's only one other gender... but you get my point.
When men get together, we talk about sports, women, work, etc.
When women get together, sure they talk about the guys they're dating, but they ALSO talk about why this woman is such a BITCH, or why that woman is such a LIAR, or why this one is such a SLUT...
Do ALL women talk like this - ALL the time?
Yes, they do...
Okay... actually no - they don't do it ALL the time - but it IS pretty damn common.
Why?
It's in their GENES.
Over tens of thousands of years, men have learned how to become the "alpha" members of their tribe through physical intimidation and the ability to persuade others to follow them.
Over tens of thousands of years, women have learned how to MATE with the "alpha males" of their tribe by eliminating their competition - through talking SHIT about the other women in the tribe.
If you were a woman and wanted to mate with a 'quality' male - you had better learn the art of "verbal warfare".
It's not like women have the PHYSICAL STRENGTH or KILLER INSTINCT to go kick another woman's ass.
Ever see 2 women "fighting?"
It's not exactly a scene out of "Fight Club"....
It's more like a couple of 2 year olds fighting over a toy on the kitchen floor...
Sure, there's a lot of hair pulling... some scratching... and a whole lotta WHINING and CRYING...
But really, very little damage.
Let's go back to ten thousand years ago, just for
a second...
So the men are out hunting wild animals to bring back food for supper time. This was DANGEROUS work.
It was "kill or be killed," if you know what I mean.
Do you think while these guys were staring a wild boar in the eyes, they had time to chat about the "social dynamics" of their tribe?
Hell no...
But meanwhile, back at home, the women are gathering berries and other things to put in the Pig Stew for dinner.
Do you think they had time to talk?
You betcha...
Picking berries doesn't QUITE require the mental focus of hunting down wild game...
So while the men were away - the women talked and talked and talked and talked...
And they got REALLY GOOD at it.
So today, when it comes to reading the subtle signs of social dynamics and communication, women are SAMURAI WARRIORS.
... and most men are the LAMBS they lead to the slaughter.
But we don't HAVE TO be...
===== "THE UGLY TRUTH" =====
The reality is that you'll NEVER really know, FOR SURE, why she didn't pick up your call - or why she never returned your voice mail.
You'll never know what she was doing - or WHO she was doing. (Ouch...)
But the goal here is for YOU to become that WHO... that REASON WHY...
So when her phone rings - with a call from some OTHER guy - she doesn't pick it up because she's busy hanging out with YOU.
You want a complete "Role Reversal."
But if you can't get past the phone, you'll continue to be in the "losing position" in this game.
If you try to call, and she's too busy with another guy to pick up your call, one thing is for sure - HE knew how to handle the phone.
You can too - and get in the position you want - if you learn a couple of critical phone strategies.
I've got a bunch, but I'll share just two with you right here in this newsletter..
===== "BLAST THROUGH THE BARRIER" =====
The phone is usually the BRIDGE from the pick up... to the date.
But does it have to be?
What if you could BLOW UP the bridge... put on a jet pack... and fly right over the "gap" created by the phone?
You can.
And one way is by setting up the date right there on the spot.
You do your 3-Step Pick Up as I always recommend, but instead of rushing away after you get her number - ask her, "How spontaneous are you? I know this killer coffee shop right down the street. We should
run in there, grab a cup and talk for a few..."
Or, if you don't have the time right now - let's say you're meeting her on your lunch break - an alternative could be "Do you have plans tonight? I know this killer coffee shop right down the street.
We should meet for a cup and talk for a few..."
The key point here is that you are setting up the meeting BEFORE she leaves your sight... BEFORE there's any chance of getting sucked into a
perpetual game of "Phone Tag."
Because when you make plans face to face, your connection with a woman is much more SOLID that if you get her number and call a few days later to set up the meeting.
Solid, concrete plans EARLY ON create a solid, concrete chance of actually meeting her later.
===== "THE TECHNOLOGY OF TEXT" =====
But maybe you were so nervous when you met her that setting up a "date" on the spot was beyond the realm of possibility for you.
You got her number, but that's it.
Fine.
So you call, and you get her voice mail...
WHATEVER you do, DON'T leave a message.
Why not?
Because giving a woman control of the situation - any situation - is DANGEROUS. If you have ever let a woman drive your car... while
you sat white-knuckled in the passenger seat... you know what I mean.
Never put a woman in the DRIVER'S SEAT.
YOU should be controlling where the interaction goes - NOT HER.
If you leave a message, she'll know for sure that you've called. And now she can wait as long as she'd like to call you back - if EVER.
Maybe she has a busy life (which you should, too) and she got caught up in other things...
Or maybe she just gets off not returning the messages men leave. It strokes her ego...
Either way, now you're mentally "waiting by the phone" for her call.
Of course you're not PHYSICALLY waiting by the phone (You are? Are you kidding me? Crap!), but you're certainly not in a "position of power."
So don't leave a message if she doesn't pick up.
Instead, wait a day, then use the wonderful "Technology of Text"...
Use your cell phone to send her a TEXT MESSAGE.
When she gets your text, she will be COMPELLED to READ your message because she knows she doesn't have to actually TALK to you.
In other words, reading your text is a much LOWER RISK behavior than answering your call - so she's much more likely to do it.
Let me ask you a question:
Have you ever IGNORED a call on your cell phone?
Of course you have.
Why?
Because for whatever reason, at that moment, you didn't want to engage in a live conversation with the caller.
Duh.
But have you ever received a text message that you DIDN'T read?
Of course not.
Why not?
Because it's UN-INTRUSIVE. You can read it and easily not respond back if you like... or put off responding until later... MUCH later.
Reading a text message is "low-risk" - there's no down-side.
In fact, it's TOO EASY... so a woman's knee-jerk reaction is to quickly read the message you sent.
She can't HELP HERSELF.
Remember back in high school when you used to pass notes back and forth in class?
How likely was it that when a girl got a note, she would neatly put it in her pocket and save it until the end of the day to read?
Can you say, "Not a snowball's chance in HELL"?
Some habits never die... and just like when she was back in school, a woman cannot resist the temptation and curiosity to see what you wrote
in your text "note".
She will read your message ALMOST INSTANTLY.
So, your question becomes what to say in your text to engage her, pique her curiosity, her attraction, and her emotions - all in a line or two of text.
Here's what you do:
Say something really interesting and unique...
something no guy has ever texted her before...
something like, "Hi Sara. This is Bob. How are you?"
Yeah, right...
What you REALLY need to do is pick out something about her that you can TEASE HER about.
Look back at your interaction and think of a slightly condescending or challenging nickname you can call her.
If you can't think of one, "Brat" or "Dork" will do.
So you text something like:
"Hey Brat... what are you up to?"
Now... imagine HER REACTION when she gets this text.
Her phone vibrates, and she sees it's you - some guy she gave her number to a couple of days ago.
"Mmm, I wonder what he's got to say..."
She reads your message...
"BRAT! He's calling me a BRAT! Damn, that's ballsy... I sort of like that..."
So she texts back:
"Brat? who are you calling Brat?"
She's engaging in the game that YOU set up.
At this point, it's ON.
So "amp it up":
"Man.. I LOVE IT when you get FEISTY..."
She'll reply back, then you transition to live conversation - QUICKLY - and in a challenging, playful way.
YOU [TEXT]: Is your phone ringing?
HER [TEXT]: No
YOU [TEXT]: That's weird... Because I heard
there's this really hot, interesting guy who's
about to call you.
YOU [TEXT]: I'd pick up if I were you...
... and IMMEDIATELY call her.
The instant you're tickling her "funny bone" with the last cocky message, her phone vibrates.
She'll pick up... because you're timing will be PERFECT.
And when she does - she'll be VERY interested to talk to you.
Or, if that's a little too "cocky" for you, use this alternative to transition from text to a live call:
YOU [TEXT]: Is your phone ringing?
HER [TEXT]: No.
YOU [TEXT]: Oh yeah?
.... and IMMEDIATELY call her.
Next time you get a woman's number, try this Text Technique - I'm sure it'll work wonders for you.
The fact is there are literally HUNDREDS of techniques, trips, and mindsets that'll help you succeed with women - where in the past you've
failed.
If you know what they are, you'll breeze smoothly past each test a woman shoots your way.
If you DON'T, you'll get stopped in your tracks - IMMEDIATELY.
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Kevin Bates
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